It isn't fair. People that were always so strong and heathy and it just can take them away so easily. My Poppa died last Friday night. I was away on holiday and found out on Sunday morning when I asked my Mum how he was (he had been sick for a while, we knew his time was coming).
But he had always always always been so healthy and strong and active, and then in the last few months his health declined, he was forever in the hospital. Then last week... he was like a different person, so frail and weak, lying in his bed with his eyes cloudy, and so pale. I cried and cried and cried when I saw him and said goodbye to him for the last time. Then last night I went to visit his body, gave him a couple of hugs and some kisses, and he just looked like he always had - as if he wasn't dead, as if he didnt have cancer.
Im sure many others on the forum have seen a love one pass away from cancer. How did you cope?.. I cant cope. Everytime I think of him I burst into tears, I loved him so much. I really dont even know why i'm posting this. I dont feel like seeing any of my friends, its too hard to talk about it, but I need to tell someone, even if it is just random people I don't know. Tell loved ones how much you mean to them, it's terribly cliche but i'm going to say it anyway, "you don't know what you've got till it's gone".
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yer not alone in hating cancer. my dad ...
yer not alone in hating cancer. my dad died of it in 2000. he was in and out of hospital too - know how ya feel.
My sympathies go out to you & your ...
My sympathies go out to you & your family Rebecca. Cancer seems so quick to kill at times. Makes me sad. Yeah.
Man, that's really awful, Rebecca. I ...
Man, that's really awful, Rebecca. I hope when the pain subsides you'll be able to hold on to all the good times when he was healthy and strong and active. My condolences to you and your family.
In 1972 after 3 long years of illness ...
In 1972 after 3 long years of illness cancer finally took my mother, it was 10 days after my 12th birthday...
Anyway trust me it will get better for you and as heather said your grief will be replaced by joyfull memories, just don't panic, your tears are for a reason, don't try and hold them back.
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aye!!!!! shit, im so sorry rebecca, i ...
aye!!!!! shit, im so sorry rebecca, i know how awful it would have been for him having to go thru with this painful condition and for you having to endure him suffering.
Kia Kaha, Stand Strong Rebecca
My deepest sympathies rebecca... take ...
My deepest sympathies rebecca... take good care of yourself... and if you ever need to talk, us strangers will always be here to support you...
Shit man..that makes me feel awful ...
Shit man..that makes me feel awful especially knowing of other posters having cancer related deaths.
Not to worry..good memories will never die & the spirit of the person will always be around the family.
Deepest sympathy to you & your whanau.
Much Love & R.I.P. to your beloved.
I'm so sorry about this, I know what ...
I'm so sorry about this, I know what it's like, not just one time, but a few more.
You know, I got a friend, from Germany, she's a Naturo-Therapist, and she told me something like:
Cancer is a disease created by the body, responding to some illnes in the mind.
In other words, people can develop Cancer only if they "want to".
A little example:
If you smoke, and you are too worried about dying of Cancer, be sure that some time you'll have cancer.
I wish I knew a lot more of english so I could just explain all I know.
My friend told me this:
The body is a perfect machine, and can "beat" any disease, even Viruses like AIDS.
it's not a matter of faith, it's actually a real thing.
I HATE CANCER TOO!!!
Ohh I forgot, I'm going to quote Sean ...
Ohh I forgot, I'm going to quote Sean Lennon (he was only 6 when he said this)
"Now, Dad's a part of God, I think when someone dies, it becomes a lot more bigger,
because it becomes a part of a whole".
Cancer sucks. I really feel for you, ...
Cancer sucks.
I really feel for you, my uncle died from it this year, and my Grandma died from a mixture of Dementia (It's not the killer in itself, but she didn't know who anyone was, so i'm guessing her will to live was slight) and an infection.
Death is hard. Stay strong, support your family, and be supported by them in turn.
And listen to music.
I am so sad for you Rebecca. When ...
I am so sad for you Rebecca.
When my nana died, it helped me to think that part of her was still alive in the family she left behind. When I thought about it some more, Nana had four sons- each son is "1/2 nana".
Nana also was loved by a total of 16 grandchildren, each grandchild is "1/4 nana".
When you do the math...
Call me weird or whatever, but it made me feel happier to look around and know that she will always be a huge part of each one of us, where we've come from, where we are and where we're going. That inside of us we all have the same 'good stuff' that made her the incredible person she was.
So I believe nothing ever really dies. I hope this helps you out.
Thanks everys ingle one of you for the ...
Thanks everys ingle one of you for the support, and I I'm so sorry for all of your own personal losses.
I found out some interesting facts about my poppa the other day. I've always been into the arts and music (much like the majority of you on the board), but no-one else in my family was, and I couldn't figuer out why I was so different to them. I have now found out he was a wedding singer in his day...
He also sung opera in his sleep at the hospital... and then he would sing to the nurses even in his last weeks.
Also found out his faviourite numbers were One and Two... and he died on the 12th of the 12th.