How do you deal with arseholes and bullying.
I hate it, and I get it pretty constantly.
Any ideas as for how I should go about getting them to shut the fuck up.
At the moment, I just dis them back, but this crap is getting tedious, and starts to get to me a bit after a while.
Help me out?
Thanks.
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do what i did.... join a gym and a ...
do what i did....
join a gym and a boxing class. so that you can get as smart as you want back to the bullys and if anything starts because of it, you know youll win :D:D
beat the shit out of them, or go down ...
beat the shit out of them, or go down trying... remember, the fetal postion
A bit of backround information would ...
A bit of backround information would probably be helpful.
I think avoiding people is a good way to stop getting shit.
Or you could look them in the eyes and say - "Your words hurt". I've never actually tried that one...but it could prove interesting.
//Or you could look them in the eyes ...
//Or you could look them in the eyes and say - "Your words hurt". I've never actually tried that one...but it could prove interesting.
Interesting... but I don't know many bullies renowned for their compassion. Possibly it'd turn out to be the best way to guarantee a wedgie every single day for a year.
I've watched too many Disney ...
I've watched too many Disney movies.
Maybe the best way to deal with it is to find yourself a dog that's really good at soccer. Or Basketball. Those bullies will be so jealous they won't know what happened.
or get bitten by a radioactive spider....
or get bitten by a radioactive spider.
There's more than 1 way to skin a cat. ...
There's more than 1 way to skin a cat. Get some dirt on them. They must have a weekness. Financially cripple them. Get a plan together and be patient. Karma always comes around. If all fails, for a small fee I know some peolpe.
get a knife and cut yourself with it, ...
get a knife and cut yourself with it, in front of them.. totally freaks them out :-)
have you done this?...
have you done this?
K, thats just freaky shit... guaranteed ...
K, thats just freaky shit... guaranteed to work i guess.
Ahhh....... no? hehe...
Ahhh....... no? hehe
Wanna borrow my Staffie she's ...
Wanna borrow my Staffie she's completely harmless but looks real mean. Hey kind of like bullies.
I do belive you should start a nu-metal ...
I do belive you should start a nu-metal band, good sir.
Haha! I agree. Do it. I've just ...
Haha! I agree. Do it.
I've just started getting bullied at work, and I find that kinda silly from 2 twenty-somethings. There was a time that it would have bothered me, now it is just kinda sad and pathetic. Bullies are meatheads. Lay down the law with some angry eye contact and swear words. I am pretty sure that worked for me today.
do a shooting rampage like columbine.......
do a shooting rampage like columbine....
wow you're actually being bullied at ...
wow you're actually being bullied at work?
i had work friends who were cunts but they were actually good friends of mine, sometimes it's just the way they interact with people
Yeah... it a fucken joke, eh? But ...
Yeah... it a fucken joke, eh? But after I went nuts in an uncharacteristically serious manner, they've backed off significantly. Sad sad people who are really into the idea of working in IT support their entire lives.
I can't think of a worse fate.
ignore it....
ignore it.
i second this. and if you cant ignore ...
i second this. and if you cant ignore it, sometimes its nice to mention that the saddest people are the ones who have to put down others to make themselves feel important.
and "wow, your dick just grew 2 inches, didnt it?!" never hurt anyone. i pulled that on one of my workmates who was picking on a newbie. he shut up.
I was looking for someone to post that ...
I was looking for someone to post that trixie....
and of all the manly marcho things you can do, do this instead, it really bugs people.... then when they become so frustraited at your lack of giving a stuff and want to hit you, laugh at them.
the downside is that they probably will ...
the downside is that they probably will hit you :/
yeah but theres nothing more annoying ...
yeah but theres nothing more annoying if you just laugh at them. I had a guy have a go at me once, I just smiled and laughed at him, he couldn't have felt more stupid. Sure I was a bit hurt, but do your best not to lead on.
yeah but if they hit you then it just ...
yeah but if they hit you then it just shows how pathetic they are that they have to resort to hitting to get a response. if you dont respond to them hitting you and just walk away they will get bored and leave you alone. or you could get a baseball bat and knock them out unconcious then take photos of them in suspicious poses.
the thing with laughing at them when ...
the thing with laughing at them when they're trying to hurt you is that there pride gets hurt....
Fuck-you has always worked well for ...
Fuck-you has always worked well for me...
no way, fighting fire with fire? ...
no way, fighting fire with fire? that'll just make them laugh and point
"hey little bitch, you're a little bitch"
"fuck you!"
"aaaahahahahahaha you wish!"
weren't you the biggest one in the ...
weren't you the biggest one in the rugby team???
the big beast who no-one had the guts to threaten???
;)
well i guess there's verbal bullying...
assuming the bullies are males, kick ...
assuming the bullies are males, kick them in the nuts.
it's a tried and true method.
sure they might retaliate, thats when you pull a knife!
Being a frail, emaciated adolescent, I ...
Being a frail, emaciated adolescent, I too was frequently the target of physical and emotional abuse by groups of rugby-playing Neanderthals. Parental advice was predictably assinine. My father would fix me with a piercing stare and grunt sullenly, "Learn to stand up for yourself boy. They can smell a nancy a mile off." He was an idiot and I'm glad he's dead. My mother would pat me on the head sympathetically and cheerily reel off cliches like, "Sticks and stone may break my bones, but names will never hurt me." This would fill me with an overwhelming compulsion to stab her to death with a kitchen knife. Names did and do hurt, and when you're a sickly malcontent with a nervous cough and an embarrassing haircut, attempting to 'stand up for yourself' will inevitably result in spending the next six months in an intensive care ward. So, what's a slightly effeminate, yet frighteningly intelligent, boy to do?
The solution to my conundrum turned out to be deceptively simple. I determined to make them think I was barking mad. So long as my behaviour remained both unpredictable, and occasionally disturbing, the only thing I'd have to fear were the frequent visits to the Guidance Counsellor for 'a little chat'. I vividly remember one incident that took place during a fifth form English class. A certain testosterone-addled primate would routinely prove how virile he was by creeping up behind me, securing me in a headlock, and then hauling me backward out of my chair onto the floor. As expected, this display of masculine athleticism resulted in howls of laughter from the rest of the class. After all, peer pressure is a bitch, and if you don't submit to the will of the herd by braying like a rabid donkey, you're quite likely to be singled out for similar treatment. This had happened before; with painful regularity in fact, and always when the teacher was conveniently absent.
However, on this occasion, it happened to be the straw that broke the camel's back. Limping wretchedly back to my desk, all the while forced to endure such scathing insults as 'dick', and 'freak', I retrieved my compass from my pencil case, turned to face my tormentor who, as fate would have it now had his back to me, and plunged it into the flesh of his upper arm. The classroom was abruptly silent, bar the whimpering of the knuckle-dragging troglodyte who had made my life a misery for the past three years. The look of pained disbelief on his face was priceless, and he never touched me again. In fact, he went out of his way to avoid me, as did his minions. And they say violence only begets violence.
For the most part, bullies are cowards and dullards. You can't reason with them because they're frequently too stupid to grasp polysyllabic words. Any attempt to communicate must be made in the bullies' own primitive dialect -- violence. You must make it abundantly clear to the individual or individuals in question, that if they hurt you, you're quite prepared to not only respond in kind, but up the ante considerably. It's a sad and vulgar state of affairs, but then reality is seldom pleasant, and your self-preservation may well depend on your ability to best your opponent at his own game.
I hope this has been of some small assistance. Oh, and please accept my sincere apologies for the length of this post.
breaking half a pencil off in their leg ...
breaking half a pencil off in their leg also works :)
Sometimes violence only works them up ...
Sometimes violence only works them up and they come back for more.
So true about the half pencil thing ...
So true about the half pencil thing dude...have you actually done that? I did when I was about 12, some older guys used to pick on me all the time until I lost my temper one day and stabbed one of them in the head with a pencil...the result was he went to hospital to get 4 1/2 inches of HB pencil removed from his head just behind his left temple, 4 stitches and a week off school, I also got a week off school (suspended) and 6 months of "counciling" but those fuckers never went near me again nor did anyone else for that matter.
The crux of the matter is I guess that standing up to the bullies in some way, not necsasarily violence, will stop them, Bullies need victims, STOP BEING A VICTIM!
I don't mean to sound racist but the ...
I don't mean to sound racist but the ethnic background of some bullys can make a massive difference in how you handle it.
As a basic rule of thumb - If they are pakeha's - unfortunately the only real option is to do what vorpal said - imediately after being bullied - take it back to them as brutally and publicly (this is especially important) as you can - do not hold back. That kind of anger and brief psychosis will turn the worm. Being made to look weak by a supposed weakling in front of their peers is the key.
If they are Maori/pacific islanders - chances are if their parents/family network hear about it it will stop - If there is some kind of family shame - it counts for a lot more than if you try to fight back.
Oh and please please do not say 'Your ...
Oh and please please do not say 'Your words hurt' - who ever recomends that approach needs to wake up - it will merely accelerate the taunts.
BTW - Vorpal made a really good point about deliberatly behaving irrationally - I would suggest that if you are being taunted verbally - jumping on one of them and BITING with all your might so as to draw blood and tear flesh will have you branded dangerous overnight - No one really sees the animal side in our society and it is extremely powerful - No matter what kind of size and shape you are - you are guaranteed to cause pain and the psychological impact will be enormous - The taunts will stop. Up the ante and make it weird...........Your intent is the most important thing.
You've got to remember - they pick on you because you represent no threat or resistance at all - Bullying is easy to do and fun for them - they walk away feeling better about themselves and recant to each other about what they have put you through so effortlessly.
Your job is to make it hard for them and put an end to the 'fun'
Focusing on injuring one of them in some way will mean that the fun is over and if you go further than they ever thought you would they won't be able to figure you out at all - you will be left alone.
PS - Go for the nose or ears - face generally - it precious to all of us.
PPS - Vorpal rocks - the only good advise on this thread - born of real experience and putting an end to it.
Violence may be one way to solve ...
Violence may be one way to solve things, but it can also fuck things up.
one boy at my school... funny name, skinny, glass etc... the typical "nerd", took the violent option. People saw fun in trying to "Syke him up", and the violent option came out a bit too often. Once when trying to comfort him, he smacked a ruler across my arm then stabbed me with it in the face.
He began to misunderstand the copnsequences of VIOLENCE. He will react now to anything, or nothing even with violence. he stabbed his best friend in the eye with a compass in the middle of the class, for little or no reason.
Dudes/Duedettes that are being bullied... Don't read all these posts and rise up and rebel into some violence machie. Think about what u are going to do about. Know what you are doing is the right option. DO NOT get carried away. I was bullied, and kept my head about me. Im ok now days, but get the occasional taunt every now and then.
Your life may end up worse than it already is if you don't think about what you're doing.
//That kind of anger and brief ...
//That kind of anger and brief psychosis will turn the worm.
//if you go further than they ever thought you would they won't be able to figure you out at all - you will be left alone.
Not always. I would be very wary of prescribing violence to stop bullying. Not only does it not work half the time, but it can get you in big trouble with your school which could land you in bigger trouble than the retaliation was worth. Worst case scenario, the bullies are even more incensed and get more mates to bully you, while the school now views you as a dangerous student in danger of being excluded from the school.
My school was predominantly white and standing up to bullies with words OR violence never got anyone anywhere. The gang against you just got bigger, more violent and more predatory if they saw you in town. I was never really a victim, but I experienced it to a lesser degree and witnessed their actions many times.
//Vorpal rocks - the only good advise on this thread - born of real experience and putting an end to it.
What a load of shit - whoever said further up that cutting yourself was a great way to stop bullying and ended it with a smily face is seriously deluded. If you're trying to get out of a cycle of violence why the fuck would you want to continue the violence yourself? It merely enforces the bullies opinion that your body is an ideal receptor of pain, but starts you thinking that it's a valid way to affect others' behaviour (that's if it works) or that your body is indeed meant to be punished by everyone including yourself (if it doesn't work). Schmash has it right - there is no universal way to stop bullying - keep your head about you and do what you think is right for the situation. Indeed, if you are bigger than this bully and he starts a fight with you outside of school, maybe that situation is right for retaliatory violence. But to say that anyone who thinks violence isn't the way doesn't have 'real experience' is dangerous and stupid.
Obviously some of what I?ve said has ...
Obviously some of what I?ve said has been taken in completely the wrong way. Let me clarify a few things, if only to avoid accusations of inciting violence.
As far as I?m concerned, violence should only ever be a last resort. I?ve never enjoyed it, nor have I ever assaulted someone who didn?t first provoke me sufficiently to warrant it. In fact, I can say with complete sincerity that in all my years I have never once started a fight. I might get hurt, and I?ve never been overly fond of pain. There are usually any number of alternatives open to someone in Napalm?s situation, most of which have been mentioned above. If you can run, run. If you can safely ignore your tormentors, do so. If alerting a member of staff to your plight will get them off your back, then by all means lodge a formal complaint. Violence should only be employed when all other avenues have been thoroughly explored and exhausted.
Having said that, running only works if the bully is morbidly obese or far too lazy to bother pursuing. Even so, if they?re both patient and cunning, they?ll simply resort to ambushing you. Likewise, ignoring someone who not only subjects you to verbal abuse, but repeatedly slams your face into your locker every afternoon, could prove something of a challenge. Complaining may result in a temporary reprieve, but it?ll also brand you a ?nark? who runs crying to teacher whenever the other kids are mean. No one likes a ?tattle-tale?, and your misery is sure to increase accordingly.
The fact remains that violence, whilst unpleasant, is occasionally necessary. Some people are seemingly incapable of comprehending how hurtful they can be, and the only reliable means of enlightening them is to slap them six ways from Sunday. If you?re relatively sturdy, this shouldn?t be an issue. If you?re slightly built, as I was, you?re going to have to get creative. I knew right off the bat that if I didn?t incapacitate my opponent in short order, I?d likely receive a sound thrashing. So I learned to hit hard and fast, and to aim for a part of the anatomy that would drop anyone not under the influence of chemical stimulants. I found the nose, the throat and the genitals produced the most satisfactory outcome. Did I feel big and special afterwards? No. I was often so terrified that I?d have to go to the toilets and throw up. It wasn?t about being tough or macho. It was about being treated like a human being, as opposed to being kicked around the playground like a sack full of dog turds. If this offends your delicate sensibilities, then I?m sorry, but life can be a little unfair sometimes and you learn to deal with it as best you can.
Once again, I?m in no way advocating violence, but if you?re left with little choice in the matter, needs must when the Devil drives.
Pretend they are non-existant and ...
Pretend they are non-existant and completely think them out of you're existance and most of the time they would get bored with a tepid or no response and eventually tire them. Listen to music, not happy stuff though it always helps. Violence doesn't always help who knows you might have a whole rugby team on you.
yeah so true, non-violent retorts have ...
yeah so true, non-violent retorts have backfired before
bully: "your momma wears army boots"
me: "so? that's fucking cool"
bully: "wanna fight?"
me: "no, not really"
that lost me half of a molar :p
Yeah but sometimes no matter what a ...
Yeah but sometimes no matter what a bully just goes into a mindless state and does whatever he feels like and sometimes unprovoked unfortunately. And if you best them it bruises their egos and they want to prove they are superior.
// bully: "wanna fight?" ah yes, ...
// bully: "wanna fight?"
ah yes, that old catch 22...
"yes" = fight 'cos you asked for it
"no" = fight 'cos the bully assumes he's gonna kick your ass even easier.
the general response when confronted with that question is to instantly run away screaming like the wimp you are.
discretion, like.
// the general response when confronted ...
// the general response when confronted with that question is to instantly run away screaming like the wimp you are. //
i'm not a wimp! i just wanted to ... er um ... race them! yeah that's it!
that's something, you can run bloody fast when you know you're gonna get your face pounded if you don't
I like it. "I'll fight you if you ...
I like it.
"I'll fight you if you beat me in a running race to the shed."
If they're as thick as most bullies, he'll tear off, leaving you behind.
Later on, the bully confronts you again...
"I got to the shed and you never showed! I'm gonna whip you now!"
"Which shed did you go to? I got to the groundkeeper's shed and you were nowhere to be seen. And I was itching for a dustup too!"
"Oh, I went to the bike shed."
"Stupid. Same again, eh? Race you to the Anzac memorial. Go!"
...and away he goes...
Keep it up and he'll be too knackered to fight you by the end of the day.
i can see it now, in ROCK OPERA ...
i can see it now, in ROCK OPERA form!
the underdog hero with a passion for running challenges the bullies to a big race - but it's a race against time! they have one week to get ready, and the bullies try and mess with him outside of school, throw cans of engine oil at him and the like!
then of course he wins the race, gets the girl and the bullies end up humiliated somehow
they can be dressed as in 'fame', bandana's, leg warmers, it'll be excellent!
smash a bottle over there head, and run....
smash a bottle over there head, and run.
talk to a teacher about it, if that ...
talk to a teacher about it, if that doesnt work talk to the principal, else tell the police, iof the cops do shit then your only solutionis to bring a delta-9 automatic weapon into your school and shoot the fuckers claiming self-defence.
it is biased and needingly to say that if assaulting somebody or stealing there property is illegal in the rest of society but it is virtually legal in schools cos schools dont take this shit seriously, i mean u can be expelled and referred to the police for bringing a joint into school but if u punch someone to the extent they become unconcious then the most they can expect is 15 minutes of picking up rubbish at lunchtime without any police involvement and the likelyhood of re-offending is 100%.
my political party Prog. Youth Alliance plans to make no distinction between youth and adult justice, that means u can be charged with assault if your 4 years old, school bullying will be referred to the police and caughts. and serious consequences will be held on all offenders regardless of age.
just run. at primary school i got ...
just run.
at primary school i got bullied so much that i made it onto the school sprint team!
heh, Run or Fight I'd say, all ...
heh, Run or Fight I'd say,
all you'll get out of "talking" is a big brown box and a piece of stone with your name on it,
-fight dirty-
I'm assuming its a guy/guys that are picking on you,
kick 'em in the junk, then let it all out on his face, even if it doesnt hurt him too much, it'll damage his pride.
and if you're gonna run, run fast, usually when they see you run, the whole hunter gatherer thing kicks in and they'll take the "predator" mindset and will come roaring after you.
failing any of that,
come to the massey community centre at 6:30pm monday and wednesdays, and we'll teach you to fight, (and win)
agnore them, laugh at their comments or ...
agnore them, laugh at their comments or just agree with them.
Worked for me!! in the end they could tell I didn't give a shit so say stopped bothering me.
There are two groups of people doing ...
There are two groups of people doing this though.
The people at school (who I got the better of yesterday by insulting them with the best shit I have, which worked...they now leave me alone). And the guys on the bus from other schools, I would hit them except that I don't wanna get banned from the bus since I live like 45 mins away from school. Ignoring doesn't work too often, but I reckon I could kick his ass. I'm not violent and he knows it, and that's what stopped me from doing it so far...but i might crack soon!
I could get off at the same stop as him, hit the cunt, then catch the next bus...I guess.