I had a situation not dissimilar to this - I was contracting as an entertainment manager in Dunedin for a guy who ran a bar called the Travel Bar. It was very good money, $200 a week to book music for three nights, easy as, took about three hours tops a week. But this guy would go up to anyone at the gigs who was drinking water (or nothing) and INSIST that they bought at least an orange juice - there was no cover charge for the bands, but he paid everybody that played, so he figured that logically it was his due to expect patrons to contribute through buying drinks rather than just drinking water.

While I can't totally fault the logic here, the way he went about it was utterly detrimental to the bar's patronage. I tried to stress to him that sometimes people just go out and drink water, and have a good night, and then come back next week and spend $50 or more getting hammered, but he was adamant he was right. There were many (at least ten) letters to the editor of the student magazine, and business quickly eroded.

In the end, after numerous heated debates and him continually trying to put me in my place by talking about biting the hand that feeds etc, I decided that I couldn't change him, and I got sick of his bullshit and being associated with his bar. I felt like the best way for me to show him how far out of line he was was to quit, so that's what I did. I told him that I loved the work and he had been very generous, but the way he chose to run the establishment was at odds with my attitude to how business should be done.

The bar went out of business, last I heard. It was a bummer to lose the easy cash, and I felt a bit bad about it at the time, but then he had the gall to get in the parting shot and said something like "Your shit stinks too" and how I was on the way up but would come down again soon enough. Ah well, fuck him. I imagine he'll go to his grave blaming everybody else for his failures, instead of taking a look in the mirror.

In your situation, I want to suggest that just sitting the guy down and talking to him should mean that you reach a solution, but it sounds like this guy's whole philosophy is so far away from your own and that of the customers that quitting may be the best thing for your sanity. If he's a racist with no concept of any life outside of his own, maybe it's for the best that you tell him to go fuck himself and spell out exactly why you're quitting - maybe the shock of it wil get him to re-evaluate his position on those issues.....but probably not. I don't envy you.

confrontation's not always they way to go... sadly he has the right to be a dick. if you want the job then best to let it slide, you don't have to like all the people you work with. Blowing the situation up with a full on chat will mostly just lead to ultimatims then someone has to concede. It's the real world you got to build a bridge.... althought things said in jest and ment in earnest have a way of bending peoples ears just my 2 cents... no need to get all aggressive in the way that W Rhino was imlpying

Just tell your boss that you will not discuss anything with him that is not work related. I've done that and it worked fine - not exactly like they can fire you for saying you'll stay focused on work.